Do you find someone that you are deeply jealous of? “No joke” was intended to make people realize that it was no joke.
Person you’re jealous of?
Say C (f) and A (m) are a couple but B (m) is way too friendly towards C and D (f) which makes A jealous. Because A is so jealous of B. Why is A jealous of? Is there any difference between A and C?
Or C (f) has a crush on B (m) but A (f) and B are a couple which makes C jealous? Why is C jealous of someone? If I was selected “A or B” for my question, which one would I choose and why?
What I want to know about a romantic relationship is the target of “jealous of”. If a dude becomes jealous of a girlfriend, who can’t be jealous?
The word jealous is polysemous; it has several glosses enumerated in a good dictionary like the American Heritage : Envious of : All
- things very funny that one of my coworkers got promoted.
- What happened to her boyfriend in a relationship where she was jealous of her old male friends?
What is there to be learned from this?
- I am jealous of our gods name. I am jealous, but I am not jealous of this.
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For the most part, your last scenario corresponds to #1 here in being a matter of simple Envy (the only one of the seven abyss that is no fun at all). When, in your first scenario, you say that A is jealous, A may be jealous of C in sense #2 (as illustrated in the American Heritage example) or of B in sense #4.
If you ask a couple who have an over-friendliness towards C whether A love B or C then at this stage you ask whether you are jealous of B or C or both? It’s different, and it’s mostly ambiguous. Natural language is more intelligent and more resilient. How do I get used to this?
And speaking of getting used to it, note how describing the scenario becomes easier and more (ahem, straightforward) without that anxious death-grip on hetero-normativity.
